MY LOVE LANGUAGE
Words of Affirmation
Words of Affirmation is big one for me, probably the biggest hence why I have it as my number one love language. There is something about words that I’ve grown to understand has great power. Words have the power to make or break one’s self esteem. A lot of people underestimate words but they have long impacting …..I think for me I didn’t grow up with a parent who instilled good things about me to me. Everything was always pessimistic and negative so I was overpowered by negative thinking most of my life. I believe that’s why it feels good to receive positive affirmations from people especially when it’s genuine. Sometimes it feels downright uncomfortable to the point of tears but I always remember those words or positive interactions. I hold unto them for dear life.
Quality Time
I love to talk with my favorite person(s). I like to be under their skin lol jk. When you’ve become my best friend and I feel safe around you, then you get my attention. I value other people’s time. More than gifts, I feel like someone giving you their time, their attention and conversation is true investment in a relationship... the greatest gift of them all. Whether I’m growing a platonic relationship or friendship, in order for me to feel closer to you I have to first get to know you..the real you. And I like when others search me out to get to know that real me. To me this can be only done through quality time.
Acts of Service
Although I like to hear, what good is it to listen to words when your actions speak differently. Acts of service is a way of backing up what you say with what you do. You not only want to say that you care but you want to show it by putting in effort. To serve someone is a great act of love.
Physical Touch
I think sometimes I can do without being touched. It’s not necessarily that I am not affectionate but I’m not as affectionate. I didn’t grow up with affection that’s why I am in fact guarded. Yea a hug here and there warms my heart but again only when it is sincere. I have to truly love you to be touched by you.
Receiving gifts
Receiving a gift is cool but to me it isn’t everything. It’s funny because I like getting myself gifts but I don’t really do it often and I don’t expect gifts from others. Perhaps it’s because I know what I like and I’ve come to find out that many people don’t put in effort when it comes to the gifts they get you. Some people spend money on material things and although I might like it, it doesn’t really touch my heart. With gifts you can buy people’s love, but not mine. Receiving a $2 shirt I've always wanted is more valuable to me than a $500 watch that I could careless about. Spending time together, doing activities and making long lasting memories mean more to me than any item ever will.
